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August 27, 2007

Movies don’t make me cry.

Filed under: family, life, movies, parenting — Wizus @ 2:05 pm

As a rule, I do not cry at movies.  Movie characters usually do not make me feel the overwhelming sadness that elicit tears. 

Not to sound heartless, but I had a hard time repressing the giggles when I heard the sniffling going on in the theater when Rose let go of Jack.   Its not that I didn’t find the movie ending sad and I did think that scene was heartbreaking, but it is a movie.  There are other movies I have heard some crying going on…The Bridges of Madison County is one…yeah, go figure!

It doesn’t matter if you are a grown up or a baby…if you cry out loud during a movie you are ruining it for the rest of us!  (please note..I am not complaining about sniffling but actual boohooing) 

Okay, now I have to confess, there is one movie that makes me cry…and it makes my eyes well up every single time I watch it.  Now, don’t laugh, but the movie is….

Hope Floats

It was in the theater in 1998.  The first time I saw it, I was doing fine up until the time Birdie’s (Sandra Bullock) mom died.  There is a scene when she gets a dress belonging to her mother, hugs the dress and holds it to her face…this is where my tears begin.

in 1995, I buried my 10 year old son.  Nothing was so hard as to go into his room and pick out his burial clothes…it would be the very last thing I would do for him. I dumped out the laundry basket, I went through his drawers and I took all the things hanging in his closet.  I put them all on his bed, I laid down and I held them in my arms.  I could smell the dirt he brought in from the park.  I could see the faint Koolaid stains that would never come clean.  I could close my eyes and feel his arms around my neck, I could hear him asking me to stay with him, ” just until I fall asleep, Mom.”. 

And that is why I don’t cry at movies.  



  1. Well dangit, you made me cry Izus. I had no idea you’d gone through something like that. Amazing the things we learn about each other through these blogs. I can’t imagine your feelings then or now and I don’t want to try to. I’m 12 years late with the thoughts, but I’m so sorry that it happened.

    Comment by snigsspot — August 27, 2007 @ 3:21 pm

  2. Is bawling at blog entries in the same category as movie crying?! I just don’t have the words….

    Comment by savasana — August 27, 2007 @ 5:20 pm

  3. Thanks for the thoughts…it is never too late because he is always on my mind.

    Comment by Wizus — August 27, 2007 @ 6:44 pm

  4. I have had a hard time even commenting on this, not because I don’t want to, but because there is NO WAY to express how sorry I am for your loss. These are things we cannot even comprehend until it happens. And it should NEVER happen. So we will remember him with you in the hopes it makes a small difference.

    Comment by shellssells — August 29, 2007 @ 10:04 am

  5. Whoever says that you shouldn’t when watching a movie has their head up their patooty. Sometimes, I can’t help but cry whenever I watch a specific movie, whether I one I have seen at a movie theater, on TV, or on video or DVD, sometimes, I get stuck watching a film that eventually brings tears to my eyes. One such example for me is “A Walk to Remember”. I have seen this movie half-a-dozen times (once in the movie theater, twice on TV, and three times on DVD), and there’s ALWAYS something that brings tears to my eyes. However, that usually doesn’t happen until the final 30-40 minutes, beginning when Jamie (Mandy Moore) tells Landon (Shane West) that for the last two years, her leukemia has been to the point where she is no longer responding to treatment. I start to cry again shortly there after, when as Jamie starts to tell her dad (Peter Coyote) that Landon is building her a bigger telescope (thus the reason why the hell he was out on the front lawn), her face turns white, she collapses in her dad’s arms, and she has to be rushed to the hospital. From there, I just can NOT stop crying until the movie is over. For me, though, my tears actually become so-called “happy” tears during the last 15-20 minutes, beginning when Landon drops to one knee and asks Jamie if she’ll marry him. But the best part comes when Landon drops by Reverend Sullivan’s house to pay him a visit four years after Jamie passed away, and during that visit, tells him that he’s sorry that Jamie didn’t get her miracle, to which Reverend Sullivan, replies “She did; it was you.” Then Landon drives out to the lake and reflects on the short time he and Jamie had together, and in a voice-over, talks about how she saved his life and taught him about “life, love, and the journey ahead.” He then says “Her love is like the wind; I can’t see it, but I can feel it.” Afterwards, all I say was “WOW!”, and tried to wipe the tears from my eyes. This movie really helped bring me closer to God, and helped me see that miracles really do happen.

    Comment by Eric Ebacher — September 8, 2007 @ 11:42 am

  6. Eric, I can see how that movie could make tears come to your eyes, but I hope I never sit anywhere near you in a theater. I don’t mind a little sniffle once in awhile, but 30-40 minutes of it would drive me insane! I really enjoy seeing movies on the big screen and I like to see the reactions of the audience members, but there comes a point when all that noise takes me “out” of the movie and back into the theater. I would complain about loud obnoxious laughter, too. Anything taken to the extreme is just rude.

    My point really isn’t that I think people should not cry at movies, it doesn’t bother me if a tear runs down your cheek. I just think compassion should be reserved for real live people. I am happy for you, that you are now closer to your god, but I would be happier to hear that the movie touched you in a way that caused you to do something extra to help your fellow humankind. Maybe volunteer for hospice? Raise money for cancer research? That, my dear, would help you see that miracles really do happen.

    Comment by Wizus — September 8, 2007 @ 1:18 pm

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